Becca: Unfortunately I can’t offer you a whole lot of experience-related advice, but I have some advice nonetheless. While your in high school, you have to contend with your parents, and the parents of your significant other, so if your gf’s mom says the two of you may not go to homecoming together, I think you need to respect that. However, people take casual dates/go with friends to dances like this all the time. Groups are more common, but some times people go with just one another friend (same or opposite sex). Maybe the two of you could still go to dinner and the dance together and just not flaunt the fact that you’re a couple. You can certainly dance together (everyone does), although the slow songs might attract more attention that the fast ones. And, unfortunately, I can definitely say that if the two of you wear dresses you will be much less conspicuous. If the one-on-one thing is just really against her mother’s wishes, maybe you guys go in a group (a group of girls would be least conspicuous). Good luck, and sorry that you aren’t free to bring the date you want :(
Mallory: Just my own opinion-based take on this: I’m from a pretty liberal area too and I thought I would get all kinds of stares and comments but I was surprised to find that there really wasn’t any issue when I was out with my ex-girlfriend, even when we held hands or kissed (although I wouldn’t recommend making out in public, regardless of orientation- ick). I’d say try it out, because sometimes people will pleasantly surprise you. And if not, as long as you don’t feel like you’re in any kind of danger, just ignore everyone! A couple of stares never hurt anyone and you might even change the climate of your town for same-sex couples. And I say if you can get away with it, go to prom together! There’s a first time for everything (and what Becca said about people bringing friends of the same sex as date substitutes was true at my school too). If you feel comfortable and want to slow-dance, you should. People should see that same-sex couples aren’t that different and they love each other, and are not all that different from straight couples.