LGBTQ Advice
Anonymous asked:
I've been chasing after a friend of mine for the best part of a year and for all these mad complicated reasons it took that long to get her to admit that I make her happy. So now we are unoffically, kind of dating. This is her first lesbian experience and my first relationship however I find it impossible to kiss her. Everything about her turns me on, and I gear up to it but then I don't. What the hell?! It's not as if I havn't kissed girls, had sex with girls but yet when I finaly find somone who I really like and want to acctuly be with I bottle it!

Tiana: Well it’s about time, huh? My first though when reading this is “this sounds familiar”. My best friend and I (who I’ve been with now for a year and a half) were really good friends for a while before we started dating. When we finally did, as much as I wanted to be with him and as much as I wanted to do all of those things with him, I couldn’t bring myself to at first. I was so used to having him in the “friend space” that actually kissing him? Well that was a weird thing for me. I think that could be it. Try doing some more romantic things together! Baby-steps like cuddling and whatnot are always good to lead up towards bigger, better things. It just might take you some time for your heart and you brain to align and join forces!

On the other hand, make sure it’s really what you want. You’ve spent a lot of time trying to be with her, but remember you always have other options.

I think your best bet is taking it slow, and I think you’ll find your way to her lips soon enough!